Just about everyone that’s ever given a toast has probably Googled “wedding toast tips” before. Being asked to prepare a toast for a loved one on their wedding day can be extremely nerve-wracking. But when done right, it leaves a lasting impression not only with the newlyweds, but also with those who cherish the lovely couple! Remember that they chose you because they care about you. When you first start out creating your toast, remember that it’s nothing to be nervous about!
The first tip we can offer is to make sure the person you are wanting to speak is comfortable with it. Just because they are the maid of honor or best man, doesn’t mean that they automatically have to give a toast. If they are naturally introverted or do not like public speaking, it will show in their speech. You want your wedding to be enjoyable for everyone, and not nervous and shaky.
The next wedding toast tip is most important: make sure the toasters are aware of a time limit. We tell all of our clients that each toast should be no more than 3 minutes. If you’re having three to four speeches at your wedding, that is already at 12 minutes, not counting transitions, pauses and applause. That’s a long time for your guests to sit through when they’re hungry! Pro tip: if you know there are a lot of people wanting to give a toast at your wedding, opt for them to speak at your rehearsal dinner instead. There’s no other formalities or time limits needed there!
Now that you’ve decided who will give a toast and depending on your relationship with them, make sure they understand toast etiquette and not embarass anyone. You don’t want a fraternity brother talking about all the drunken times he’s had with the groom. You don’t want your little sister talking about the days of your first crush. Sure, they can share brief mentions of these anecdotes, but it’s important to focus on the here and now. A great toast includes how they know each of the couple separately, how the couple has grown together and some wise advice for many more years to come.
Whoever you choose to speak at your wedding, share these tips for wedding toasts with them! In short, a wedding toast in polite, respectful, a little witty and wise. Even if the toaster isn’t married, they can give examples of solid married couples in their lives and what the newlyweds can look forward to.
Cheers, friends! 🥂
